Walking back into the light after a trauma such as death of a spouse requires courage. It would be 'just easier' to stay in the darkness, accept the limitations on One's life. The excuse which many would accept, that it just hurts too much to go on living again.
The courage comes into play as one walks forward into a new life direction without the one they lost. The light shines brightly and highlights the hole and the shadows left by the absence of ones mate. The courage comes in when one has to decide what that new life will look like. What it will entail. How one will function. Even if all of the same activities continue as before, it is not the same due to the absence of that important One.
One gathers the courage to walk back into the light and create some semblance of a life once again. That life still feels empty and loneliness creeps in even if there are many around. But, initially, its just a life. Not really great. Not really worth it. Not really of any purpose. And, certainly not anything to enjoy. To dream? Not really looking to dream again either.
The dream at this juncture is an impossible one. To have my spouse back by my side. Nothing else feels as important as this one thing could be. So, that said, any other dreams are impossible to consider. Maybe the answer at this point in time is that the dream is to be able to exist in the light. To feel good about it and not be sad. One day, maybe dreams might exist again. But for today, being in the light is a huge step, and the extent of the reach.
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